Words to think about

A therapist told this to her/his/they patients.

Stop assuming that people are mad at you.
Stop attempting to read people’s minds.
Stop trying to manage the thoughts and emotions of others.
Let people be in charge of themselves.
If they have something to say to you, they will.
And if they don’t, it’s their responsibility, not yours.

Then someone sent this to me.

The thing about building or having something you love (any kind: person, organization, craft, etc), is that it comes with a looming fear of losing or messing it up one day.

There’s a very real upside of having nothing to lose, or being on your lowest-doing the bare minimum and yet feeling grateful for any little blessing you get. The fundamental remains: let go. Accept that you don’t always have the control, and it’s okay that the universe will throw you curveballs every now and then.

This morning I saw a posting that relate to some realities I am facing by Reverend Funke Felix Adejumo. I add my own statement.

Be yourself. Like yourself. Stick in your lane. You can’t do everything, we can’t carry the same bags, we have our own bags; be it small or big.
If you are still competing, aggresively criticizing other women, and abusing your power, you are the only one in that class, others have left. Everybody is fulfilling purposes. You are director, community organizer, finance person, business owner; sit there and fulfil your purposes. We come together, we fan the flame, no body is competing with anybody. To have different opinion on individual and organizational values are not unique. Your anger and disappoinment are not unique. But to act aggresively act on it may be sign of many things:
– fear of losing “ownership”,
– low self of esteem to pulling down other, they are your friends that fight together with you,
– you care too much and want to hold on to it, meaning you can’t let go, or
– you don’t trust the person or the organization.